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How Do You Relate?

Last week I mentioned that networking demonstrates how we relate. Well, so does public speaking. Whereas networking helps others see how we operate around people, public speaking helps folks see whether or not listeners have an impact on speakers, or if speakers simply deliver the message that works for them without connecting to their audience. .. read more

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Understand This and Feel your Anxiety Drop

Networking demonstrates how we relate to people. There is no single right way to network, just as there is no single right way to communicate. While there are things to do that help you connect and relate to people, it’s useful to understand that what works for others needn’t work for you. In early June .. read more

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Comfort Zone or Adventure?

Last weekend my partner and I did some white-water rafting in West Virginia, the land of the wild and wonderful. As a public speaking and communication coach I encourage clients to explore territory outside their comfort zone and you better believe that focus took hold of me while I was on my own personal adventure. .. read more

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Build Your Influence Repertoire with these 9 Options

We fall into any of 4 communication styles, which means, our preferences and behaviors fall into natural patterns. Depending on who we’re with, our patterns may mesh well, or not. If they fall into the same styles as us, typically listeners will comply with our patterns. Typically. But not always. And a good 70% of .. read more

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Lacking Motivation? Training can inspire!

Do you remember why you entered your profession? If you’re an attorney, you may have had the grand desire to make a difference. And once you entered your practice, you may have learned the difference you want to make is bill more hours make partner live the life you want Whatever you’re interested in making .. read more

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How to Break Down Networking Barriers

You’ve just heard you have to attend the after-hours event, today.You focus on all the things you could be doing instead which bumps up your anxiety. At a networking event is the last place you want to be. If this feeling continues, your attitude and behavior will show your discomfort, creating barriers to not only .. read more

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Your Speech Preparation Time-frame – What Works for Your Style

Recently I heard a speaker say, “I don’t know why some folks crab about planning a speech. Take 30 minutes and be done already!” Perhaps 30 minutes works for some, but I will guess that’s only if they are overly familiar with both their topic and audience AND trust themselves to be articulate on the .. read more

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If It Feels Like You’re Pushing, Use This Tip

Many of us have felt this – whether we’re networking, in a sales meeting or needing to convince a client – sometimes we don’t like what we’re doing or saying but think we need to continue, and it shows. It feels like we are pushing ourselves while all we want to do is stop. Rather .. read more

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When’s the Last Time You Said, “Wow! I did that!”?

If you’re like many of us, you often say to yourself, “Why did I do that?” Shaking our head, we often regret actions performed impulsively, decisions made hastily or choosing not to do what is unfamiliar. Consequently, much of the time, we compare ourselves to others and see ourselves as less than admirable. This can .. read more

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Speakers, Having Trouble Deciding What All to Talk About?

As a public speaking coach, I often hear presenters say, several days prior to their next scheduled talk, “I’m not sure yet what all I’m going to talk about on the topic.” This can be a crippling moment that, if it persists, buries a speaker in a hole of frustration. Looking at their indecisiveness, any .. read more

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