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Speak out loud

Practice for your upcoming presentation doesn’t count as practice unless and until you do the minimum of one thing. Speak out loud. Here’s what commonly happens when people claim they are practicing: they sit with their notes, reviewing their key points, claiming their focus and feeling on track with their message. Then when they stand .. read more

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On June 16th, 2014, posted in: flow, language, practice by

Avoid “if all else fails”. Rehearse!

They say, “if all else fails, read instructions.” In essence, get a preview of what to expect when you attempt something, especially after you don’t get what you expected. When it comes to speaking in public, doing so without first rehearsing is inviting “all else” to “fail”. Do you really want that “when all else fails” .. read more

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Respond Well to the Unexpected Question

One of the hardest parts of public speaking is taking questions. Like at a job interview where the most ready candidates have planned for the commonly posed questions but still wonder about what they may not have planned for, we speakers are fully alive to being blind-sighted by that question we cannot answer. What do .. read more

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On June 2nd, 2014, posted in: anxiety, communication skills, public speaking by

Don’t Start Questioning Confidence

Many have been reflecting on the book, The Confidence Code, especially women, and questioning whether confidence is worth the struggle. Don’t fall victim to this quandry – it’s an excuse to give up. Instead, get back on track. Confidence, like enthusiasm, has 3 key benefits. 1. Confidence opens the individual’s mind for clear thinking. 2. .. read more

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On May 19th, 2014, posted in: confidence, energy, purpose by 1 Comment

What’s the point of your message?

Sometimes I rush my speaking. I hear someone express an idea and I rush in to share my thoughts. Or I speak publicly on a topic in my expertise and I pack as much information in as possible to demonstrate my intelligence. Does either of these actions leave the impression I am effective? No. When my listeners are .. read more

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On May 12th, 2014, posted in: speaking, time for thought by

When to think about your presentation audience

Many speakers focus all their pre-speech time on brainstorming, selecting and organizing the ideas and details on what they find most important about a topic. Whether they bring unique or already-prepared messages to their audiences, often the only focus they have is in what they want to say. That’s when they get in their own .. read more

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We can’t afford NOT to talk to people

Although many of us wish we could just close our door, turn off our phone and get to work, we can’t and we shouldn’t. Inspiration and opportunity come to us when we are open to others. I must be honest – like many introverts, I enjoy downtime – time to reflect, to recharge and to .. read more

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The duality of WHY

If you’re a leader, perhaps you have heard that asking your employees questions that start with “Why?” should be avoided. The assumption here is, questions that start with “why” puts folks on the defensive. Leadership isn’t about forcing people into that position but instead about relating to and understanding them. Putting aside whether or not .. read more

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On April 21st, 2014, posted in: behavior, communication skills, conviction by

Get Ready to Respond

The issue We never know when we will be asked to speak but we do know we prefer to be ready. How it could apply to you This could occur during a meeting. Maybe our section leader asks us to give an update on a case or project. How do we want to appear? We .. read more

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What it takes to polish a skill

Many of us grew up in an era when persons in authority were quick to teach us to keep our nose to the grindstone. In essence, we were taught to apply ourselves conscientiously to our work if we wanted to be good at it. An introvert, I appreciate conscientiousness. I like having time to think things .. read more

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