Being stuck


I’ve been reading up on what motivates people and have been reminded that the more people understand themselves, the better the chance they see the potential for change.

Many of us want to be told what to do, what to say, how to respond and why. Yet if we were to be honest, we may determine that we each have the answers within ourselves to create change. What we need are the exploratory questions.

Coaching is based on a relationship between two individuals who are willing to create learning from discovery. As a coach I know that to create a working relationship and useful discovery process, I must come ready to listen, to generate discovery through a series of key questions and remind the client what they have said is important to them.

Coaching is not about being told what to do, it is not about being judged. It is about being open to discovery, to growth and to moving out of a rut.

We all get stuck. That’s a fact of life. Another fact of life is that we are designed to move – physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. And this all begs the question,

Where do you usually get stuck?

Patterns is another fact of life. When we get stuck, we respond in any of 3 ways, based on our view of ourselves and the world. We avoid, we attack or we manage. Because we often get stuck, we fall into the same pattern of reacting, making it a habit.

If we choose to develop ways to manage instead of avoiding or attacking, we must sharpen our focus. See things about ourselves, about our circumstances, about those around us. Part of the managing is in gaining new perspective. That’s where opening up enough to ask for help – to get coaching, to request accountability or to do some brainstorming – is key. Otherwise, we remain stuck.

How do you respond when you are stuck?

How is this response working for you?

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On August 16th, 2010, posted in: asking for help, move forward by