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How speakers push tolerance levels

When it comes to drinking and driving, we all have a tolerance level for what we can handle. Unfortunately, we only learn this lesson by crossing the line and vomiting, if not worse. The same is true for how much a person talks within a given time frame. If someone has used up 3 minutes while .. read more

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On October 6th, 2015, posted in: introvert, law student, lawyers, Message, Uncategorized by

Say, “Wow, I Did That!”

There’s nothing like the voice in our head, when it comes to how we feel about ourselves. Stemming from past experiences, opinions of others or even existing circumstances, that voice in your head either conjures up magic or doom. Right? What we feel about ourselves sends us on a trajectory of self-fulfilling prophecy. It will .. read more

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On September 28th, 2015, posted in: affirmation, Breaking down barriers, confidence by

Got Energy to Burn? Practice Public Speaking using 5 Tips

Whether you are in leadership, sales, training or litigation, you may step into moments when butterflies in the pit of your stomach feel overwhelming. Not only is this common (most folks won’t admit to it), it’s common for folks who have excelled in performance. As Victor Lipman points out in his post from 9.09.2015, “public speaking .. read more

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On September 22nd, 2015, posted in: Uncategorized by

New at Speaking? Give listeners what they want to see and hear.

When we think of new public speakers, what often comes to mind is a behavior that tends to be a common barrier pattern – being needy. There are several things we see of needy speakers. Tense behaviors that show their “nerves in action” commonly start with the hands and feet. This means that adrenaline coursing through our .. read more

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How to tell if you’re confident

It often surprises my clients that they actually come across confidently when speaking. As they were standing in front of the group they felt nervous and they were sure they came across this way. Some who feel nervous but don’t look that way are shocked to hear listeners report they didn’t see their nerves. Could .. read more

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On September 1st, 2015, posted in: affirmation, anxiety, confidence, feedback by

Find Your Uniqueness, Uncover Motivation

It’s common in our childhood to wish to fit in with the neighborhood kids, to be called on to participate and feel as though we belong. Belonging helps us relate and feel loved. But that’s not the only desire that calls to us. We also want to be unique, set apart, needed. When I shifted .. read more

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How to Build Confidence within Your Firm

The stakes are high. Summer associates, new hires, new partners and new leaders have to consistently break down barriers to deal with these stakes. For them to gain respect and trust from their co-workers, they must dispel questions and fears from those around them about their ability to handle the job ahead. If they break .. read more

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Open for Business? Prove it by Doing This.

Ever show up at work thinking you’ll just stay at your desk doing passive tasks (research, writing, planning, etc.) and then realize you actually have to show up as though you are OPEN for business? I just returned from a 10-day vacation and thought I had the whole day today to transition back into business. You .. read more

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On August 11th, 2015, posted in: attitude, business, communication coach, introvert, purpose, recharge by

Can listeners SEE your value?

Our message is not only what we say, but how we say it. Verbally and non-verbally. What do listeners remember after you walk away? Last week you may have read my post about how to ensure people do remember you, recognizing that distraction and forgetfulness is part of life. This week, let’s address the core barrier .. read more

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Want Listeners to Remember You? Do this.

You’re out developing business by presenting to supportive audiences, attending networking events, scheduling follow up coffees and entering meaningful conversations. How do you hope they feel? Hopefully they don’t want the meeting to end. But it does. Then what? They need to remember the feeling, and basically this means, they need to keep remembering you .. read more

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