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Why I Speak and Other Introverts Should, Too

Every time I speak I feel like a duck. Cool and collected above water while “paddling like hell” underneath! But that’s not why I speak. I remember when I went to my first speech class in high school. My hands were sweaty, my spine felt like jello and I thought I was going to pass .. read more

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On July 28th, 2014, posted in: adrenaline, affirmation, behavior, calm, curiosity, in the zone, introverts by

Signs you need coaching

There are some universal needs most of us can agree we need, and one of these includes getting neutral constructive feedback. Do we want this? Many times we do and are motivated for it. But sometimes we resist this type of feedback, let alone a relationship with someone designed to regularly give it to us. .. read more

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Find your voice

When you think of great public speakers, what comes to mind? Is there a particular image that comes to you? A delivery style? If so, hopefully it’s your own. Unfortunately, most of us feel others are better speakers than we are. We make this comparison based on our experience of feeling anxious when all eyes .. read more

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On October 16th, 2013, posted in: affirmation, calm, public speaking by

Find Your Voice

How would you feel if You were told your presentation time, previously promised as 45 minutes, is now only 5? Angry? Confused? Disrespected? Manipulated? Based on that feeling, how would you present yourself? If your answer has anything to do with being less than powerful, you are right. Our power does not come from negativity, .. read more

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On May 9th, 2013, posted in: affirmation, calm, clarity, confidence, courage, speak up by

Your Communication Can Help You Transform Your Work Environment

My final year of teaching high school shifted from being the worst-ever to the ultimate. Although I simply thought it was because the students grew up – I learned it was really about how I humbled myself into communicating well. Or another way of putting it, I improved my leadership-by-speech. That final year – 2000 .. read more

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Sit still.

Stop the busy-ness. Sit still. Take a deep breath. Exhale. Now think about the folks you really enjoy talking to, hanging out with or listening to. Are you smiling? If not, would you be, if you really stopped the busy-ness? Earlier this week I wrote about what motivates us to respond to invitations,  as well .. read more

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On November 14th, 2012, posted in: affirmation, calm, downtime, energy, focus by

Remember the Attraction

Yesterday my minister centered our focus on the “red letter edition” of the new testament, especially Jesus’ 4 directives, starting with “Come.” Reaching out to disciples as well as to those who are weary, the invitation to “come” has huge appeal. Whether we look at this from a spiritual appeal or even just from a general appeal in life, I think .. read more

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On November 12th, 2012, posted in: affirmation, attitude, clarity by 3 Comments

Tips for Refueling a Deflated Ego

We all have days when our power wanes, usually due to exhaustion. Yet sometimes it has more to do with hearing NO, not hearing YES or lacking recognition. This is when our sense of self, our confidence, deflates. Like a balloon left alone without new air, we fizzle out, slowly becoming a limp, unremarkable object. .. read more

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On September 25th, 2012, posted in: affirmation, attitude, confidence, energy, exhaustion by

When it comes to breaking down communication barriers

Those of you who know me or have been reading my posts already know I am a product of my own life lessons. An introvert, I used to believe I was a flawed communicator and now understand that I simply communicate differently from the majority. Those of you who can relate understand what I mean .. read more

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We commonly forget our value

Consider the individuals who, when around them, force you to shift from your best self to your most negative self. Consider the times you feel judged, attacked or belittled. In considering these things, you are recalling feelings of frustration, confusion, anger or regret. Especially if you are an introvert. These are not pleasant ways to .. read more

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