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A Week of Miracles

In Christian beliefs and traditions, this is a week of miracles. Thousands of years ago humanity was given a gift that proves we don’t have to be good enough. In a few days we will once again celebrate God sending Jesus from heaven to earth to save us from our imperfections. But the miracles are not over. .. read more

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On December 21st, 2015, posted in: affirmation, attitude, behavior, Breaking down barriers, Uncategorized by

Communicate to Break Down Barriers

A puppy now lives with my partner and I. This is an exciting, while challenging time! What we’re quickly noticing is how Star, this young pup, takes on the energy and attitude we give her. So if we want to spend our time correcting and disciplining – which of course, we don’t, we don’t think .. read more

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On October 14th, 2015, posted in: attorneys, behavior, communication, communication coach, law student by

Can listeners SEE your value?

Our message is not only what we say, but how we say it. Verbally and non-verbally. What do listeners remember after you walk away? Last week you may have read my post about how to ensure people do remember you, recognizing that distraction and forgetfulness is part of life. This week, let’s address the core barrier .. read more

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Every Day Mantra for Attorneys and Other Introverts

“Get Out There” You may be a leader, a business developer, a trainer or a co-worker. Any of these roles require noticing how your efforts affect others. If you’re daily activities include research, analysis, drafting or any other form of content-creation, you, in part, do justice to your profession while you remain in a passive .. read more

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Regret being Wishy-Washy?

In the general public, a good (yes, they are good) 35% or more of us are peace-keepers, motivated to create calm. Looking out for the interest of others, we would rather avoid conflict than enter an anxious discussion, which leads us down a slippery slope. Let me explain why this is a problem: peace-keepers are .. read more

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On January 23rd, 2015, posted in: anxiety, behavior, communication, out of the comfort zone, pace, purpose by

Why I Speak and Other Introverts Should, Too

Every time I speak I feel like a duck. Cool and collected above water while “paddling like hell” underneath! But that’s not why I speak. I remember when I went to my first speech class in high school. My hands were sweaty, my spine felt like jello and I thought I was going to pass .. read more

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On July 28th, 2014, posted in: adrenaline, affirmation, behavior, calm, curiosity, in the zone, introverts by

When to think about your presentation audience

Many speakers focus all their pre-speech time on brainstorming, selecting and organizing the ideas and details on what they find most important about a topic. Whether they bring unique or already-prepared messages to their audiences, often the only focus they have is in what they want to say. That’s when they get in their own .. read more

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The duality of WHY

If you’re a leader, perhaps you have heard that asking your employees questions that start with “Why?” should be avoided. The assumption here is, questions that start with “why” puts folks on the defensive. Leadership isn’t about forcing people into that position but instead about relating to and understanding them. Putting aside whether or not .. read more

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On April 21st, 2014, posted in: behavior, communication skills, conviction by

Get Ready to Respond

The issue We never know when we will be asked to speak but we do know we prefer to be ready. How it could apply to you This could occur during a meeting. Maybe our section leader asks us to give an update on a case or project. How do we want to appear? We .. read more

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Signs you need coaching

There are some universal needs most of us can agree we need, and one of these includes getting neutral constructive feedback. Do we want this? Many times we do and are motivated for it. But sometimes we resist this type of feedback, let alone a relationship with someone designed to regularly give it to us. .. read more

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