break down barriers to public speaking anxiety

Give Your Listeners Clarity and You Give a Gift to Yourself

There are 3 things listeners want from speakers or those communicating with them. And you can tell from this title what one of them is – clarity. When they listen to you, do listeners get clarity? Rushing through our thoughts doesn’t give us time to understand them. And rushing through sharing our thoughts suggests we .. read more

Share Button

Antsy? Look at what you’re not doing.

How are you feeling today? Are you antsy? Then there is something you’re not doing. Address it and you’ll remove the feeling of regret. It’s oh so common to feel regret. At the end of the day we recount our actions and, once again, realize we haven’t followed through with something. And it’s an important .. read more

Share Button

Anxious? You have at least 1 barrier to break down.

Communication can be tough, even for attorneys. Circumstances that lead lawyers to feel communication anxiety typically centers around proving their worth, on business development, and on handling opposition. Can you relate? Each of these circumstances generates anxiety while also tipping the scale of said attorney’s success based on how well he/she communicates. First, we must .. read more

Share Button

How speakers create anxiety in listeners, part 1

Just as common as speakers being anxious when talking is listeners feeling anxiety with speakers. Today’s focus is on the anxiety we listeners get when speakers don’t look at us – not to be confused with speakers from cultures who take extended eye contact to mean an affront or challenge of authority. In the United .. read more

Share Button

New at Speaking? Give listeners what they want to see and hear.

When we think of new public speakers, what often comes to mind is a behavior that tends to be a common barrier pattern – being needy. There are several things we see of needy speakers. Tense behaviors that show their “nerves in action” commonly start with the hands and feet. This means that adrenaline coursing through our .. read more

Share Button

Find Your Uniqueness, Uncover Motivation

It’s common in our childhood to wish to fit in with the neighborhood kids, to be called on to participate and feel as though we belong. Belonging helps us relate and feel loved. But that’s not the only desire that calls to us. We also want to be unique, set apart, needed. When I shifted .. read more

Share Button

How to Build Confidence within Your Firm

The stakes are high. Summer associates, new hires, new partners and new leaders have to consistently break down barriers to deal with these stakes. For them to gain respect and trust from their co-workers, they must dispel questions and fears from those around them about their ability to handle the job ahead. If they break .. read more

Share Button

How Do You Relate?

Last week I mentioned that networking demonstrates how we relate. Well, so does public speaking. Whereas networking helps others see how we operate around people, public speaking helps folks see whether or not listeners have an impact on speakers, or if speakers simply deliver the message that works for them without connecting to their audience. .. read more

Share Button

Comfort Zone or Adventure?

Last weekend my partner and I did some white-water rafting in West Virginia, the land of the wild and wonderful. As a public speaking and communication coach I encourage clients to explore territory outside their comfort zone and you better believe that focus took hold of me while I was on my own personal adventure. .. read more

Share Button

Speakers, Having Trouble Deciding What All to Talk About?

As a public speaking coach, I often hear presenters say, several days prior to their next scheduled talk, “I’m not sure yet what all I’m going to talk about on the topic.” This can be a crippling moment that, if it persists, buries a speaker in a hole of frustration. Looking at their indecisiveness, any .. read more

Share Button