confidence

What it takes to polish a skill

Many of us grew up in an era when persons in authority were quick to teach us to keep our nose to the grindstone. In essence, we were taught to apply ourselves conscientiously to our work if we wanted to be good at it. An introvert, I appreciate conscientiousness. I like having time to think things .. read more

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Is your confidence stronger today than yesterday?

Mondays we are generally slower and less-disciplined than other work days, for one, because we may have used the weekend for rest. “What is at rest stays at rest”, my in-laws reminded me while I was on vacation with them. So our “at rest” mind and body needs an extra surge to get going again. .. read more

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On March 25th, 2014, posted in: action, attitude, breakthrough, confidence by

Signs you need coaching

There are some universal needs most of us can agree we need, and one of these includes getting neutral constructive feedback. Do we want this? Many times we do and are motivated for it. But sometimes we resist this type of feedback, let alone a relationship with someone designed to regularly give it to us. .. read more

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You may be surprised who wants practice speaking

I remember when a global law firm reached out to engage me for delivering a conversation workshop to its summer interns. “They need to have the social skills to quickly meet and communicate within the firm as well as demonstrate confidence in their abilities should we want them around longer.” I got it. Makes sense, .. read more

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On March 3rd, 2014, posted in: attorneys, confidence, public speaking, Uncategorized by

Be Remarkable

I don’t know about you, but I get tired of being unremarkable. Sure, I love relaxing and comfortable environments but put me in them too long and I get antsy. Are you antsy? If you are antsy, you feel energy somewhere. It could be in your gut, revving you up for the big talk or big play .. read more

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If only my folks had more confidence

Do you have at least 5 people in your firm you’d like to promote if only they had more confidence? Maybe you have someone almost ready to take the first chair on some upcoming litigation, but they doubt themselves You want to delegate a speaking engagement at your industry conference to someone who has been .. read more

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On February 3rd, 2014, posted in: confidence, public speaking by

Display your confidence, today!

Who needs to see your confidence? Anyone who is relying on you: children, boss, partners, clients, your associates, etc. Display concern or frustration and that’s what those relying on you will feel. Concern that they have put trust in the wrong person. Frustration that you are not of the right frame of mind. The more .. read more

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On January 27th, 2014, posted in: confidence, controllling self, conviction by

I Can’t Believe I Just…

embarrassed myself said what I did stood there and let someone walk all over me choked in front of my audience rambled on Been there before? Of course you have. Why do I say “of course”? Because we have all experienced the “I Can’t Believe I Just” moments. Just when we wanted to be relaxed, .. read more

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Get Real. Perfection is over-rated.

I get it. You strive for polished results, for handling all objections, and for being ready for everything. How is that working for you? I know how that works for me. It keeps me awake at nights. I worry there is something I’ve forgotten about just before the big event. Fill in the blank for .. read more

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On November 19th, 2013, posted in: anxiety, breakthrough, calm, challenges, confidence, Delivery by

Absolute language – remove it.

Ever felt unfairly judged or left out? If you’re like most of us, your answer is “yes.” If so, you may recall memories of childhood time at recess, in the school cafeteria or in neighborhood games. Perhaps someone else was chosen before you, or in some cases, you may have even been chosen last. Perhaps folks .. read more

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On August 26th, 2013, posted in: attitude, behavior, confidence, language by