Merri Bame

Tips to being Purposeful, not Selfish

Those times you feel anxiety, what generally happens? Do you say to yourself, “Gee, here’s a chance to step out of my comfort zone to be purposeful! I’m sure it will work.” or do you say to yourself, “Nope, not going there. Why bother? It’s much too uncomfortable.” If you’re like most of us, you .. read more

Share Button
On February 8th, 2016, posted in: accountability, action, anxiety, clarity by

Don’t Wait Until You’re in a Practice to Practice

It’s the ages-old issue – who am I and what should I be doing with my time? For the youth, I should be having fun. I will work, later. For the HS student, I can work later. I should have fun, now. For the college student, I will be employed later. I should have fun, .. read more

Share Button
On January 19th, 2016, posted in: business development, confidence, law student, managing self by

Give Your Listeners Clarity and You Give a Gift to Yourself

There are 3 things listeners want from speakers or those communicating with them. And you can tell from this title what one of them is – clarity. When they listen to you, do listeners get clarity? Rushing through our thoughts doesn’t give us time to understand them. And rushing through sharing our thoughts suggests we .. read more

Share Button

A Week of Miracles

In Christian beliefs and traditions, this is a week of miracles. Thousands of years ago humanity was given a gift that proves we don’t have to be good enough. In a few days we will once again celebrate God sending Jesus from heaven to earth to save us from our imperfections. But the miracles are not over. .. read more

Share Button
On December 21st, 2015, posted in: affirmation, attitude, behavior, Breaking down barriers, Uncategorized by

Feeling Pressure in the Holidays?

We’re firmly into the holiday season. We’ve passed through Halloween, Thanksgiving, are today ending Hanukkah and yet have Christmas and the New Year’s celebrations. Whatever your beliefs about the holidays, their celebrations -whether active or passive – can take tolls on many of us, especially if we’re perfectionists. Lots of my clients and readers are .. read more

Share Button
On December 14th, 2015, posted in: downtime, stress by

You Need to Stand Out. Here’s How.

You have your reasons. You need to initiate business, to be the role model, or to instill confidence for some other reason. And you need to do this, now. What do you naturally think about? Probably what makes you unique. And when you think about your own novelty you go down one of two paths. .. read more

Share Button
On December 10th, 2015, posted in: affirmation, anxiety, communication, managing self by

Antsy? Look at what you’re not doing.

How are you feeling today? Are you antsy? Then there is something you’re not doing. Address it and you’ll remove the feeling of regret. It’s oh so common to feel regret. At the end of the day we recount our actions and, once again, realize we haven’t followed through with something. And it’s an important .. read more

Share Button

Anxious? You have at least 1 barrier to break down.

Communication can be tough, even for attorneys. Circumstances that lead lawyers to feel communication anxiety typically centers around proving their worth, on business development, and on handling opposition. Can you relate? Each of these circumstances generates anxiety while also tipping the scale of said attorney’s success based on how well he/she communicates. First, we must .. read more

Share Button

How speakers create anxiety in listeners, part 1

Just as common as speakers being anxious when talking is listeners feeling anxiety with speakers. Today’s focus is on the anxiety we listeners get when speakers don’t look at us – not to be confused with speakers from cultures who take extended eye contact to mean an affront or challenge of authority. In the United .. read more

Share Button

Communicate to Break Down Barriers

A puppy now lives with my partner and I. This is an exciting, while challenging time! What we’re quickly noticing is how Star, this young pup, takes on the energy and attitude we give her. So if we want to spend our time correcting and disciplining – which of course, we don’t, we don’t think .. read more

Share Button
On October 14th, 2015, posted in: attorneys, behavior, communication, communication coach, law student by