The Case for Creating a Third Mind
Many of us, as children, were told at least once, “mind your own business”. If this is the case with you, that directive just may have become a foundation in your business ownership. You think things through, you keep successes and challenges close to the vest, and you and only you shape your next steps. .. read more
Two Steps can Save People-Pleasers
Many of us are people-please’rs. As such, we have had many occasions to share encouraging, exciting conversation, and no doubt just as often have needed to discuss the difficult. In these hard occasions we may sit back and ask ourselves, “How will so/so think about this new development?” Maybe a boss is expecting something from .. read more
Listeners can’t understand you? Try this.
Your pace may help you get things done, enter conversation, make decisions and get results. But that doesn’t mean your pace works for listeners. They may be overwhelmed by your rapid delivery and decide to tune out. I know you don’t want this. So what do you do? You’re not the only communicator dealing with .. read more
What Listeners Notice When You are Nervous
What they see may surprise you. Ever stood in front of a group to speak when a case of the nerves blindsides you? Many of us have, and most of us think that whatever we are feeling is obvious to our listeners. We can’t focus on anything more than our own discomfort, and it stands .. read more
Every Day Mantra for Attorneys and Other Introverts
“Get Out There” You may be a leader, a business developer, a trainer or a co-worker. Any of these roles require noticing how your efforts affect others. If you’re daily activities include research, analysis, drafting or any other form of content-creation, you, in part, do justice to your profession while you remain in a passive .. read more
Regret being Wishy-Washy?
In the general public, a good (yes, they are good) 35% or more of us are peace-keepers, motivated to create calm. Looking out for the interest of others, we would rather avoid conflict than enter an anxious discussion, which leads us down a slippery slope. Let me explain why this is a problem: peace-keepers are .. read more
Can I Coach Myself on Communication Style?
When it comes to being the eyes and ears of our own value, what do you think? Can you coach yourself on how you come across? to others? If you’re the typical attorney, you want to make sure you think about things that matter. A few things to think about: Oral communication isn’t the same .. read more