3 Times We Need to PLAN our Communication

It’s that time of year when advisors, mentors and job hunters all are getting prepared for the big launch. Either their students are moving on, their interns are lining up their interest in next steps or job seekers are priming for the open market of recruiters. It’s also the time I get called on to .. read more

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On March 31st, 2014, posted in: alertness, anxiety, calm, clarity, communication skills by

Signs you need coaching

There are some universal needs most of us can agree we need, and one of these includes getting neutral constructive feedback. Do we want this? Many times we do and are motivated for it. But sometimes we resist this type of feedback, let alone a relationship with someone designed to regularly give it to us. .. read more

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Turn Away From Negative Self Talk

Last February I was told I won’t be driving any time soon and that my right ankle would be in a cast anywhere from 8-12 weeks. An entrepreneur with her plate full of public speaking trainings and coaching appointments, my first thought was, “How am I going to manage without cancelling?” And my second thought was focused on .. read more

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On February 24th, 2014, posted in: action, anxiety, asking for help, Uncategorized by

The Myth about Minding Your Own Business

“Don’t bother me” “Solve your own problems” “Don’t tell me what to do” When I think of the phrase, Mind your own business, I recall hearing it on the playground when, after seeing someone cowering around a corner by themselves, approaching them to see if they were okay. The remark came from embarassment, maybe guilt, .. read more

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On January 20th, 2014, posted in: anxiety, asking for help, attitude, business, perspective by

I Can’t Believe I Just…

embarrassed myself said what I did stood there and let someone walk all over me choked in front of my audience rambled on Been there before? Of course you have. Why do I say “of course”? Because we have all experienced the “I Can’t Believe I Just” moments. Just when we wanted to be relaxed, .. read more

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Get Real. Perfection is over-rated.

I get it. You strive for polished results, for handling all objections, and for being ready for everything. How is that working for you? I know how that works for me. It keeps me awake at nights. I worry there is something I’ve forgotten about just before the big event. Fill in the blank for .. read more

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On November 19th, 2013, posted in: anxiety, breakthrough, calm, challenges, confidence, Delivery by

Get over it!

We all have our issues. Maybe shyness, perfection, rule-following, control. There are many things that create over-the-top and even underwhelming behavior patterns. We need to grow up and get over them. We are designed to speak, to not be perfect, to be human and to be flexible. Here is another issue to get over that .. read more

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On August 21st, 2013, posted in: action, anxiety, fear of failure by

Calm or Distorted? You get to chose.

It isn’t easy to “keep your calm when all about you is losing theres”. We have all dealt with times we’ve regretted losing our control. As professionals, we strive for self-management, yet with few role models to learn from, how do we get it? What it all comes down to is the result of CHOICE. .. read more

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On July 8th, 2013, posted in: alertness, anxiety, calm, choice, controllling self by

Had a bad experience as a presenter? It’s time for a good one.

Not only is it common for people to have bad experiences presenting, bad presentations happen to all of us, even the best speakers. (By the way, most of us who speak a lot have learned our craft after bad experiences.)  After one of these experiences is a perfect time to get in front of a neutral observer to .. read more

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Simply Break it Down

Got a barrier? Don’t destroy it. Simply break a barrier down. I recall occassions I stood in my own way. Because of a limited viewpoint or distorted thinking I held myself back. And because I love to read and study, I spent loads of time in psychological self-help books trying to figure out my inadequacies. I wanted .. read more

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On January 17th, 2013, posted in: anxiety, attitude, controllling self, move forward by