Tips to being Purposeful, not Selfish

Those times you feel anxiety, what generally happens? Do you say to yourself, “Gee, here’s a chance to step out of my comfort zone to be purposeful! I’m sure it will work.” or do you say to yourself, “Nope, not going there. Why bother? It’s much too uncomfortable.” If you’re like most of us, you .. read more

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On February 8th, 2016, posted in: accountability, action, anxiety, clarity by

Give Your Listeners Clarity and You Give a Gift to Yourself

There are 3 things listeners want from speakers or those communicating with them. And you can tell from this title what one of them is – clarity. When they listen to you, do listeners get clarity? Rushing through our thoughts doesn’t give us time to understand them. And rushing through sharing our thoughts suggests we .. read more

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Find Your Uniqueness, Uncover Motivation

It’s common in our childhood to wish to fit in with the neighborhood kids, to be called on to participate and feel as though we belong. Belonging helps us relate and feel loved. But that’s not the only desire that calls to us. We also want to be unique, set apart, needed. When I shifted .. read more

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Listeners can’t understand you? Try this.

Your pace may help you get things done, enter conversation, make decisions and get results. But that doesn’t mean your pace works for listeners. They may be overwhelmed by your rapid delivery and decide to tune out. I know you don’t want this. So what do you do? You’re not the only communicator dealing with .. read more

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On March 13th, 2015, posted in: clarity, communication, engagement, pace by

3 Times We Need to PLAN our Communication

It’s that time of year when advisors, mentors and job hunters all are getting prepared for the big launch. Either their students are moving on, their interns are lining up their interest in next steps or job seekers are priming for the open market of recruiters. It’s also the time I get called on to .. read more

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On March 31st, 2014, posted in: alertness, anxiety, calm, clarity, communication skills by

Discover the Master Mind

You may think you are the only one who is going through the self-management, the leadership or communication challenges you face. And if you do, there’s good news. You are wrong. And it’s time to stop minding your own business. Many folks just like you have challenges they face monthly – probably more often that that. .. read more

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Create clarity

We all need clarity in our communication. Expressing our ideas before we have gained clarity can limit how we focus our message and also others’ understanding. So the motivation for our seeking clarity is strong. However, whether we arrive at clarity is based on our process. We cannot think ourselves there. Clarity is not logical. Maybe .. read more

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On June 28th, 2013, posted in: clarity, clutter, in the flow, inspiration by

Find Your Voice

How would you feel if You were told your presentation time, previously promised as 45 minutes, is now only 5? Angry? Confused? Disrespected? Manipulated? Based on that feeling, how would you present yourself? If your answer has anything to do with being less than powerful, you are right. Our power does not come from negativity, .. read more

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On May 9th, 2013, posted in: affirmation, calm, clarity, confidence, courage, speak up by

Attorneys Who Articulate – part 2

Has anyone ever told you to open your mouth when you talk? It may seem odd that any of us speak with our mouths closed – is that possible? Yes. Our lips may be parted, but if our jaw is in the closed/clenched state, words don’t escape. They stay internal, caught behind our teeth. And these .. read more

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On March 15th, 2013, posted in: clarity, Projecting by

Stand up for what you believe

Who deserves your representation? Know that answer, and why you feel that way and you can start standing up for what you believe. Sometimes we forget our beliefs. We get distracted by the natural barriers that get in our way, that strip away our energy and push us around. Yet these barriers, although distracting, and sometimes .. read more

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On March 12th, 2013, posted in: behavior, boundaries, clarity, confidence, controllling self by