What a gift idea for your loved one
Imagine your husband/wife/partner standing up to an admiring audience, breaking smiles on their faces, getting them to nod and then applaud. And then imagine your partner accepting the request to return to another opportunity. Your loved one has what it takes but has simply forgotten how to focus on their assets. This is where you .. read more
Good reason to have someone observe you
Today I observed a presenter for the second time in a week., the 4th time overall. New presentation, new venue and different presenting style all led toward my feeling of respect for the presenter who cares enough about his presentation impact to learn from an outsider about his patterns. Two days ago this speaker was in .. read more
Yes, You Can Get over Presentation Anxiety
One of the ways people are taught to get over their fears is simply by facing them. Hence – just do it. If that’s the best we have for addressing presentation anxiety, it’s not enough. Eventhough I, too, have offered quick fixes with the confident by tomorrow morning approach, tactics like this address circumstantial-, not .. read more
Tips for Refueling a Deflated Ego
We all have days when our power wanes, usually due to exhaustion. Yet sometimes it has more to do with hearing NO, not hearing YES or lacking recognition. This is when our sense of self, our confidence, deflates. Like a balloon left alone without new air, we fizzle out, slowly becoming a limp, unremarkable object. .. read more
We commonly forget our value
Consider the individuals who, when around them, force you to shift from your best self to your most negative self. Consider the times you feel judged, attacked or belittled. In considering these things, you are recalling feelings of frustration, confusion, anger or regret. Especially if you are an introvert. These are not pleasant ways to .. read more
Step Up
I get asked to do things that stretch me. No doubt, you do, too. Maybe it’s being a guest speaker in a webinar, a coach for a new audience of professionals I haven’t experienced before, or even customize a topic for a presentation. My first reaction is usually, “gosh, am I good enough?”. And by .. read more
The Confidence Continuum.
I used to be in awe of public speakers with vibrant energy, entertaining content and a sparkle in their eyes, especially when I was teaching and wanted to speak more. Then I shifted from the classroom to a business career. That’s when my admiration went to those who sell seemingly without anxiety. Clearly, I was constantly .. read more
Tell a story. Ask for business
I used to go over the top with introducing myself, not knowing how much to say, and usually babbling until what I said sounded good to me. In this case, there were usually a lot of questions my listener had about qualifications and marketing strategy or simply blank stares. Quite often the conversation shifted pretty fast. At .. read more
Emotions have a place, when handled
An introvert, I used to try to conceal my emotions, afraid they would show a weakness. Then I watched some of my favorite performers and realized another perspective. Emotions have a place, when handled. My desire was to learn how to gain control of emotions, then appropriately pull people into my conversations. Although I wanted people to .. read more
Who are we, really?
In a conversation with a new business acquaintance he shifted from his sharing details about his company’s paper solutions to his concern with his own selling confidence. This led him to ask, Who are we, really? He wants to be confident, he wants to be clear and yet much of the time, he confesses, he would .. read more
