The Best Grow Faster

Have you noticed it’s those who are really good in certain areas who get help in those given areas? For instance, I have been pleasantly surprised by the number of good speakers who have begun asking me for help. They know what it’s like to be good but aspire to be great. Attorneys, you can .. read more

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On June 28th, 2012, posted in: asking for help, communication, confidence, Uncategorized by

Stand Up for Confidence

My mentor has me reading the book, Selling to VITO, the Very Important Top Officer by Anthony Parinello. Full of perspective on how to think, behave and speak like a top officer, Parinello echoes what I have heard others say about boosting your confidence level – stand up. If you are about to speak with .. read more

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On May 14th, 2012, posted in: confidence, courtroom, meetings, sales by

Introverts can rise above it all

One of my favorite childhood TV shows was The Flying Nun, starring Sally Field. Quirky and fun, I loved how the introverted main character defied the odds of daily life in the abby, and smirked through her challenges with a tilt into the wind and willingness to “rise above it all”. Similar to Maria in .. read more

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On April 25th, 2012, posted in: confidence, judgement, sit down, speak up, stand up by

Confidence in Asking

When I started observing jury trials to coach attorneys in confidence and influence, I enjoyed watching opposing attorney communication style and quickly learned a few key things. In general, those who were prepared – mentally and logically – demonstrated the most confidence. But I was thrown by the shift in a confident lawyer’s approach when he/she .. read more

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On March 27th, 2012, posted in: asking questions, confidence, extroverts, introverts, voir dire by

Pushing Forward

On this day of the week when it’s common to drag ourselves slowly out of bed, into the day and into focus, I am reminded of a move I made to begin pushing my own barrier out of the way. Some of you may have read that I have been a student of the National .. read more

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Before you step into your courtroom

Picture this: Your left hand is on the pully of your briefcase, your eyes scanning the floor as you navigate around jurists or observers mingling in the hallway. You look up to see the nameplate attached to the wall outside the courtroom, the name revealing the judge chambered inside. Your heart does a momentary flip .. read more

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On March 20th, 2012, posted in: confidence, defense attorney by

Display of Confidence

It’s a standoff. Two cowboys, back to back, step off away from each other, aware that the other will be soon turning around, taking aim and hitting their mark. The sun overhead is at it’s height, the dusty road is wind-swept in swirls and on-lookers are poised for the action. The cowboy displaying confidence fortells .. read more

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On March 19th, 2012, posted in: attorney, confidence, courtroom by

Putting pen to paper

Yesterday a friend gave me some quality time over coffee. This resulted in my remembering one of my unique gifts. Thank goodness. It got me out of bed this morning! While at Starbucks we were talking about what has been holding us back in our businesses. This struck me, for it’s been an area of focus .. read more

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On November 1st, 2011, posted in: confidence, introverts, story, strengths, writing by 4 Comments

6 Facts about Public Speaking Anxiety

When I was a child I was ultra shy. The middle child in my family, I developed the pattern of letting my older sister do the decision-making and my younger brother handle conversation. That pattern made me comfortable yet did little to help me break away from the communication barriers I created. What this means .. read more

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7 Benefits of Being in the Spotlight

As an introvert, I have come to see spotlights – times speaking in public – as unexpected sources of energy. Yes, I still thoroughly enjoy days away from the crowds, schedules free of appointments and the time and space to research, analyze, and create in isolation. But I must admit there are huge benefits for .. read more

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