Pitfalls of Routine Communication

Habits (especially bad ones) are such an overwhelming part of our life that we tend to overlook their impact. And when it comes to communication, we do well to avoid the pitfalls, especially when they come from our routine. Pitfalls of Routine Communication Predictable vs. Novel behaviors Although it can be fun to be able .. read more

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On September 24th, 2013, posted in: communication, impact by

I admire you

Sometimes I am so often inclined to prove my value that I hesitate to share my weaknesses. Yet when I get real, when I speak to the sides of my experiences that teach me lessons, I am able to connect with most folks, in a disarming way. So give me a few moments, if you .. read more

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On June 21st, 2013, posted in: behavior, confidence, impact by 2 Comments

Make Your Thoughts Count

As a friend of mine recently told me, “Your thoughts don’t count unless you share them.” We introverts are often go-to people, but this cannot happen unless we first prove that we have thoughts worth paying attention to. And to do so, we must get out of our own way. We must speak up. Take .. read more

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Presentation Extenders – training that works

Let’s face it. A day of training or an hour of speaking helps fill a training need from a training director’s or administrator’s standpoint. But what does it do for the student? It doesn’t matter how much you spent on speaker/training fees. Retention of a one-time offering is as good as the Chinese food you .. read more

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On July 31st, 2012, posted in: action, coaching, engagement, impact, presentation by

Even we introverts should go with our gut!

When it comes to communicating, I understand. There is such value to slowing down, thinking, adjusting the words we use and carefully delivering our message. We introverts are quite used to behaving this way. But it needn’t be the ONLY way we respond. Sometimes our impact is enhanced when we go with our gut. When I was  .. read more

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Presenting Well: The case for rehearsal

Tonight my band, No Excuses, is rehearsing for several hours before playing 2 gigs this weekend. I’m a bit nervous about the gig on Sunday, because we have only been rehearsing for Saturday’s performance. Since Sunday’s is twice as long, we’ll no doubt use about 3 hours or so to focus on Sunday’s gig before .. read more

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On August 26th, 2011, posted in: Delivery, impact, presentation, rehearsal by 1 Comment

Discovering Your Courtroom Impact

You slide your chair away from the table, rise and approach. You can’t help but watch yourself, hear your footsteps and feel the hairs on the back of your neck. What are your opening words? Where is your opening focus? What is the impact you’ve already made? Litigators know the power of their presence and .. read more

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On July 19th, 2011, posted in: impact, litigator, performance, presence by

Polishing Your Act

My father had a regular routine on the weekends, about monthly, of polishing his shoes. Perhaps since I’m a process-loving person, I enjoyed watching this routine. It started with setting up a space for several pairs of shoes to sit – whether on the floor in front of him while he sat in his favorite .. read more

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On November 9th, 2010, posted in: confidence, discipline, impact by

You have a speaking gig tomorrow… can you speak with confidence?

Just thinking about an upcoming presentation causes many speakers to feel squeemish -even for those of us used to speaking. It’s a biological response that sets our energies in motion, in search of a plan. So planning is definitely the first step toward a confident presentation. Planning our end result is key. Do you want .. read more

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On October 18th, 2010, posted in: confidence, Connecting, impact, Projecting by

When you disagree with what you hear, can you speak with confidence?

Today one of your peers has expressed an opinion different from your own. You’ve heard differences of opinion from this person before and at times have avoided saying what you think. Either you fear the result or out of need to avoid conflict, you said nothing. Later, you regretted not voicing your opinion. Today you .. read more

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On October 12th, 2010, posted in: confidence, impact by